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AITA for telling my mom my dead dad can't dance with me at my wedding when she told me she thought I'd ask my dad?
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My dad died when I (29f) was 10. My mom's been remarried since I was 14. Her husband is Mike. Mike's fine but he's not my dad. He wanted to be when he married my mom and she wanted that too but I didn't. And because of that there's an underlying tension surrounding my relationship with Mike. They both felt like I should have allowed him to take on the role of a dad to me and they've always expressed disappointment that I was never open to that. Even though I get along just fine with Mike it wasn't enough. He has no kids so they felt like it was only right that a fatherless girl would try to let a childless man in so we could both have that relationship.
I bring all this up because I know how my mom feels.
Two weeks ago Mike asked who I was walking down the aisle with I said I'd be walking myself. Then he asked who I'd choose for the father/daughter dance I said I was considering whether I'd ask mom or not. It was after this mom told me she thought I'd ask my dad to dance with me because that's tradition. And I knew she was talking about Mike. I knew she didn't mean my actual dad. But my reply was my dead dad can't dance with me at my wedding and I don't know how she thought that would work.
My reply was not well received and my mom told me to stop being a brat and I knew what she meant. I told her I was giving the most honest reply because dad died when I was 10 and there's no possible way for me to dance with him. She told me she understood what I was doing and it made me a brat. I told her she shouldn't worry I'll ask her because this helped me make my mind up.
She told me I owed Mike an apology and then her once I finished apologizing to him.
AITA?
Top Comment: The idea of having a father-like relationship with your stepfather should be up to you and him alone. Your mother needs to stop trying to force the issue. Unfortunately weddings have a way of bringing these issues to the forefront of people’s minds.
Tripti still can't dance sala 🤣
Main Post: Tripti still can't dance sala 🤣
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i relate to this on a spiritual level, i am so extremely rigid when it comes to dancing unless im drunk af.
u go tripti, everyone isnt a natural born dancer